Myth Number Four: Money is not a requirement
If there is one thing the everyday christian does not want to be caught pursuing, it is money. The scripture 'the love of money is the root of all evil' is one that is deeply rooted in the heart of everyone, so much that we often overlook the need for financial compatibility when choosing a spouse. Many studies have shown that the two top reasons marriages break up are money and sex. If money is such an important factor in marriage, why aren't we discussing it?
I have read many stories of people who shared testimonies of financial grass to grace in their marriages, and more often than not, the purpose of these testimonies is to steer others down the same path. There is a general belief that your relationship will be much stronger if you both start with nothing and build your way up together. There is a general belief that seeking financial comfort as a factor in your relationship means you are highly superficial and not ready for the indepth journey of marriage. Well, that is not true.
There is nothing wrong with starting with nothing; but there is also nothing wrong with starting with something. My advice? Let your personal preference come to play. There is nothing evil about starting off a marriage with enough money to support your lifestyle as a couple. As a matter of fact, it is a plus for your marriage. It eliminates the need to worry over the basics i.e. food, clothing, shelter and all the associated bills. It gives you the emotional time and space to focus on other things, and it eliminates unnecessary quarrels and incidences of low self-esteem expression.
Contrary to what you might have been told, money is not evil. Greed is. No one is asking you to go looking for Dangote or to run after Bill Gates (both of whom I believe are happily married so don't waste your energy). You should pick a partner who brings something substantial to the table to avoid unnecessary fights and bitterness in future. Pick a partner who you are financially comfortable with just as you are emotionally and intellectually comfortable with them. Choose a partner who understands your lifestyle because it complements theirs. Don't go looking at the bottom of the barrel to prove you are christian. Money is a requirement for marriage, and it's high time you begin to take it into consideration.
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I have read many stories of people who shared testimonies of financial grass to grace in their marriages, and more often than not, the purpose of these testimonies is to steer others down the same path. There is a general belief that your relationship will be much stronger if you both start with nothing and build your way up together. There is a general belief that seeking financial comfort as a factor in your relationship means you are highly superficial and not ready for the indepth journey of marriage. Well, that is not true.
There is nothing wrong with starting with nothing; but there is also nothing wrong with starting with something. My advice? Let your personal preference come to play. There is nothing evil about starting off a marriage with enough money to support your lifestyle as a couple. As a matter of fact, it is a plus for your marriage. It eliminates the need to worry over the basics i.e. food, clothing, shelter and all the associated bills. It gives you the emotional time and space to focus on other things, and it eliminates unnecessary quarrels and incidences of low self-esteem expression.
Contrary to what you might have been told, money is not evil. Greed is. No one is asking you to go looking for Dangote or to run after Bill Gates (both of whom I believe are happily married so don't waste your energy). You should pick a partner who brings something substantial to the table to avoid unnecessary fights and bitterness in future. Pick a partner who you are financially comfortable with just as you are emotionally and intellectually comfortable with them. Choose a partner who understands your lifestyle because it complements theirs. Don't go looking at the bottom of the barrel to prove you are christian. Money is a requirement for marriage, and it's high time you begin to take it into consideration.
Nice and very practical write up. Demi, you hit some home truths in your posts
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