I know you are married but still do the PIES

Many Christian women (and men) often neglect to take care of themselves after marriage. They believe their spouses should only be focused on spiritual matters and shouldn't be bothered about their physical looks. WRONG!!!

Even though we are spirit beings, we still live in a physical world. Take time out to make yourself attractive physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually (PIES). The husband has no right to have large, round, protruding belly, saying it is a sign of wealth when he could be a hunk for his wife showing her his three-pack. She should be able to look up to him as her knight in shining armour, not the court jester. The husband should be fit and smart. While the wife should not let herself go, putting on weight and blaming it on childbirth.  She should be smart, fit and good looking. Let your king be enthralled by your beauty; honour him, for he is your Lord. (Psalm 45:11). I am not saying we should spend an inordinate time caring about how we look. But we should take good care of our physical bodies and our looks. It is not vain; it is expedient.

Be as attractive as you can be for yourself and your spouse.

I don't need a man to have a child. - "The Switch" starring Jennifer Aniston and Jason Bateman

I may seem old fashioned but this trend is now a normal tradition in the African culture. I met a lady friend a while ago who said that she was going away for sometime, specifically a year. She casually said she was going to have a baby. But I blurted out unconsciously, "But you are not married. Are you going to adopt a child? She replied casually that she was going to a sperm bank.

She said she was getting old and she was tired of waiting for marriage and she needed someone to be with her in her old age. My mind immediately drifted back to a film I watched recently titled "The Switch" starring Jennifer Aniston and Jason Bateman. In this film, Jennifer Aniston acting as Kassie Larson decides she wants to have a baby and decides to do it alone with the services of a sperm donor. But one thing led to another and Jason Bateman acting as Wally Mars accidentally switches the sperm. Even though it was a comedy, the whole scenario played out as a normal scene in everyday life.

In this film, there was really no problem with Jennifer having a child but she just decided she was going to do it alone, and raise the child alone. My friend felt justified that she wasn't doing anything morally or spiritually wrong. She wasn't a practising Christian and I just wondered if she knew what she was getting into - spiritually and what would become of the child she was going to bring into the world WITHOUT a father. Since she didn't have a relationship with God, she wasn't going to believe God for a husband and moreover, she was past her "prime". She felt if it was condoned in the western culture, she was essentially moving with the modern times. But there is a reason why the Almighty God saw it fit to recognize marriage as a sacred institution and the raising up of a child in the care of a home and two parents. We are not wiser than God.

I think we owe it to the unborn generation to give them the right homely condition. Every child deserves to have a father and a mother.

Honour your father and mother so that you may live long.....What if you don't feel like?

The relationship between an individual and his/her parents is a very delicate one which extends through the individual's lifetime. It starts with the individual being taken care of by his/her parents and is expected to also reciprocate when the parents are old. 

As a child you take it for granted that your parents should take care of you because, after all, they brought you into this world without your consent. They should also feed you and nurture you to be the best that you can be. 

But wait a minute, what if they do not carry out their parenting duties; what if they do not show you the love that you "deserve"; what if they see you as a burden, a cost centre; what if you don't see eye to eye with them and you are just waiting to grow up to get out of the house and live your own life. So that you can shut them out equally. Is this right? Exodus 20:12 would certainly pose a great dilemma trying to walk the Christian walk. 

This is one commandment with a promise proposed by God. 

“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you. 

What if you don't feel like?