I just called to say "I Love You"

I was recently challenged by someone. When you have been married for a while or have kids or both, it's easy to sometimes take things for granted. When was the last time you called your spouse at a random time during the day, no story, no complaints, no Children Matter, just to say "I Love You" ?. For ladies, the first response you get from your husband might be "Okay what did I do?", or "Okay what do you want for Christmas?" after 4 or 5 more questions he will finally agree that the call was really just to say you love him.

I think this happens all too often, men forget what it was like searching for that one woman who was going to bear his name and children and build a home with him. Women are more guilty because they like all the romance, presents, calls etc but once they get into the routine of married life they tend to forget. They desire all the romance and romantic text messages but forget that if that's what you want, that's what you give. You can't complain to your husband about him changing and not doing all those sweet things, you have to take the initiative sometimes. Human beings naturally react to each other's behaviour, so if you call to say "I love you", you're more likely to receive a similar call sooner or later.

We can't create positive change in our marriages if we are not ready to take the first step. What we constantly behold, we become. Don't allow your spouse develop a stiff upper lip because soon that will be the order of the day....Its not to late, this special offer is still on! 

Call your wife immediately and say "I love you!" simple! 

One man said the last time he called his wife to say "I love you" was on their wedding day!

It is like a way of renewing one's promise and commitment. Ladies, sometimes just look at your husband and start praising him and watch his head swell and have the biggest smile ever. This is how to get the best out of him not by persistent complaints. I know it's hard and it may feel odd and if you've had issues in the past it may be even harder to break out of the protective shell you've created but its a bold step you must take. Everyone likes to feel special and loved by a special someone.

... And while we are it, we should all try and give our kids kisses and a cuddle too and tell them how much we love them as often as we can. 

Matthew 25:29 says: For to everyone who has will more be given, and he will have an abundance. But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.

Ijeoma Olujekun