Don't Hide It; Be Bold and Courageous

“I might be able to speak the language of men and even of angels but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell” 1 Corin. 13 vs. 1. Love is very important in life; it is with love you can win the battles of life. The Bible also says “love is the greatest of all”

“A friend of mine was in love with a lady for three years but he didn’t know how to tell her; a year later the lady got engaged to my friend’s cousin who they met through my friend and this devastated him. He confronted the lady who told him that she waited for three years for him to express his love but he didn’t. Today, my friend is still very angry with himself for not making the first move as his cousin is happily married to the lady”.

It is true that many guys are afraid to declare their love to the ladies of their dreams. This feeling comes because of the fear of being rejected and others are afraid to know that the lady already has a boyfriend.

You don’t need Ramsey Noah/Emeka Ike’s (Nollywood Actors) boldness to deliver a romantic compliment. Though the content of the compliment itself is nice but how you say it, counts. Make the tone romantic by maintaining eye contact and smile as you talk – it will make you naturally add appealing inflection to your voice.

“ A brother in my church has been in love with this lady in the same church for so many years but he told him he was waiting for God to tell her. Is it God that will marry her or him? I told him that he has to make the first move after which God will do the rest. Not until you establish something, God cannot complete it”. Telling someone you love her over text, email or IM doesn’t have the same impact as actually saying it loud.

“My uncle lost the love of his life because he was shy. He wrote a nice letter to this lady outlining the things he admired about her. The lady on receiving this travelled all night to meet my uncle so she could hear from the horse’s mouth but he told her they should remain friends. The lady left in annoyance that day and vowed never to accept my uncle’s proposal even if he comes tomorrow because he was not man enough”. A lady takes you as a friend until you tell her what you feel about her. Ladies are like creepers, they need support and cling to whatever they can find. When delivering a love message, manage your expectations and don’t let the experience hinge on whether or not the other person says it back. You should be saying it because you want to let her know how you feel not because you need validation or expect something in return.

Pick the right time. The moment you tell someone you love them should be intimate and free of interruption. Pick a setting in which you can express yourself without feeling embarrassed or worried about someone else intruding. While sometimes guys are seen to be in this situation, it is important to emphasize that ladies are not left out in the game of expression. In this part of the world, it is seen as a taboo when a lady expresses her feelings about a guy she admires but even at that most ladies still play ‘hard to get’ even when their hearts and souls are willingly tending towards the guy.

What should ladies do in this situation? They should at least receive compliments from these guys, even if it will take sometime to study the guys personalities and by so doing it could develop gradually as against closing the doors of their hearts all in the name of ‘hard to get’ and eventually loosing it all at the end of the day.

Declare your love today to that girl of your dreams, don’t hide it else it might be too late. Not all books in the world can give as much wisdom as knowing what love means.