Food for thought: do you dig deep?

I've been thinking about this a lot and I can't help but wonder why this generation of youths don't dig deep. In case you're wondering, my definition of digging deep here is not a laborious task that requires the use of farm tools, nor is it the in-depth study of the bible.

In this post, I'm referring to relationships. These days, I see many relationships crashing like it's 9/11 all over again and I can't help but wonder what the reason is. Why do we crash and burn before we even take off?

A recent discussion with a few friends opened my eyes and my mind and now, I believe I know what the problem is...the youths of today don't dig deep. I recently saw a picture with the inscription "These days, people aren't dating; they're sleeping together, catching random feelings and getting caught up in 'situation-ships'. I laughed when I saw it but I also knew there is 100% truth in it.

What are the factors you consider before you decide to go into a relationship? Are they simply superficial? Is it about a nice car, a nice house, a hot body that won't quit? Is it about age, skin colour, a career that will yield a lot of fame in future? Is it about intelligence and beauty? Do you only consider what this person can offer you? E.g. Children, money, comfort? Do you seek friendship first or are you just about the sexual involvement? Do you get to know her first before you decide she's the one? Do you look beyond his family name, flashy cars and ostentatious friends before you decide he's the one?

I recently read an interview Jay-Z had with a popular magazine and I could not help my surprise when he said his wife, Beyoncé was not impressed by his status when she first met him. She was not impressed by the fact that he was one of the most successful rappers around nor was she impressed by his bling necklaces and his fat wallet. He said he had to wine and dine her and get to know her properly before she even considered him as a partner.

In subsequent posts, I will be addressing the issue of 'digging deep' into a person to be sure that person is who and what you really want to be with. Can you accept the faults and love the imperfection? Are you patient enough to dig deep or do you pride yourself in a supposedly faultless ability to make the right decisions after five seconds?

This is food for thought! Look out for my next post on this topic. Ladies, you're up first! ;)

Happy holidays everyone!