How Do You Deal With A Nagging Wife? - Part 1

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Two Bible verses come to mind when one considers a nagging wife. 

The first one comes from Proverbs 21:9 (The Message translation) which states that it is “Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a nagging spouse”.

The second verse is also from the book of Proverbs (The Message translation); this time from the 27th book of Proverbs and it is the 15th verse. It states that “A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can’t turn it off, and you can’t get away from it.”

These two verses clearly show that no man would like to have a nagging wife. To have a nagging wife would make any man’s life a living hell. A man with a nagging wife will have no cause to come home early or discuss important issues with her. When he thinks of her, he thinks of trouble. He would rather let sleeping dogs lie. Having a nagging wife does not help in a marriage. Rather, it drives a wedge in a couple’s relationship.

A nagging woman can be described as one who always finds faults, complains and makes a fuss over everything. She is the direct opposite of a peace-loving woman. She is never content and generally believes her happiness depends on other people. She always wants people to do things her own way and grant her every wish.

One is inclined to ask this question: Why should a woman nag knowing the associated problems this behavior brings into a marriage?”

A woman would nag if she ….

• believes in getting her own way and thinks nagging has been the only way to get this. This is the trait of a selfish person who does not believe or understand the oneness between a husband and wife in marriage. The Bible stipulates that we should “do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” – Philippians 2:3-4; 
• believes her expectations of marriage are not being met and you, as the husband, are the principal cause of this. A woman who feels cheated in her marriage based on the fact that her expectations are not being met is likely to nag to vent her frustrations. 
• does not know “1 Corinthians 13” way of Love. A nagging woman does not understand the “way of Love” in a marriage. 1 Corinthians 13 spells out the need for Love in any relationship. A woman who practices love would not nag.
• does not see her relationship with her husband in the same light as the relationship between the Church and Jesus Christ. The Bible likens the relationship between man and wife to the relationship between Christ and the Church. Paul addresses this in Ephesians 5: 22-33. He specifically says in verses 22-24: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. So a wife who submits to her husband will not be a nagging wife.

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