Post- Breakup Blues: There's Nothing Wrong With You!

Breakups are hard to deal with, and sometimes they can hurt for months and even for years. It is worse when they are due to infidelity on one person's part or due to the love 'fading away' as many people may like to refer to it. Of course it won't help if you've had many relationships that have failed due to one reason or the other. It's only a matter of time before you start wondering if you have some kind of negative aura that attracts the wrong kind of people, or if you are unlovable, not good enough, not beautiful enough, not wealthy enough etc. Recently, my friends and I discussed the negative effects breakups can have on a person and we agreed that breakups can often birth insecurities. 

Don't let negativity take space in your head! There is nothing wrong with you! Breakups can cause self-doubt, and self-doubt must be combated before it grows into low self-esteem, lack of confidence and a general lackadaisical attitude towards life and love. It is not impossible to battle the negativity that breakups can make you feel towards yourself, although it may be difficult. One thing to remember is that crying occasionally doesn't mean you are weak, nor does it mean you do not value yourself enough. It is release of your hurt, your disappointment and all the negative voices that are creaming in your head. Let yourself feel the hurt and the pain, but by all means, do not allow yourself to be buried in the negative thoughts that may threaten your sanity and your personality.

Irrespective of the many exes, and the unfaithful fiances that may have come your way, believe you are strong, you are beautiful, and you are  good enough for the best, and the best only. No matter what the voices in your head may say, know today that there is nothing wrong with you. XOXO