The social media is everything these days. We play catch ups and
get updated scoops on lives of friends and acquaintances. The line between what
obtains there and in the real life has become so blurry. We take our personal
businesses there and we expect validation from friends we haven’t seen in ages
or those we probably have never met. I am not going to highlight some of the
ills without giving credence to its positive effect. Businesses have grown and
endless talents are being displayed every day. Some people even find love on
it. The video chat apps are so phenomenal, one can almost swear one felt a
lover’s touch by how intimate the conversations can get.
A friend of mine was complaining to me about how hard it is to
find ready and single men on the streets these days and for lack of a better
explanation, I said that is because most of them are chasing after perfect
profile pictures and obsessing on presumed personalities of those they meet
online. I can’t help my ramblings but I think we need to start acknowledging
things for what they really are.
Much as we might want to disagree, the fact still remains that the
social media plays a large part in the dating scene of these present time and
so for those that are still single, there is nothing wrong with replying that
brother’s ‘hello’. If you want him to notice you, like his pics or ‘lol’ at his
jokes. Let him take it up from there sister. All these has to be done with
moderation though. You don't want him perceiving you as really desperate.
Share interesting posts. It gives an insight into the kind of person you are and you might probably attract someone on the same radar as you are.
Be courteous in your conversations brothers, all those endearing words don't always work. If you truly like her, then come correct like a gentleman.Arrange a meet up in a place where you can make great conversation and see if you can take things from there. It is a circle, don't be thirsting after every great picture you see, you would never be taken seriously that way.
You should know better than to invest your heart without physically
meeting whomever you are constantly chatting with. Online profiles don’t hold
true sometimes so you need to be careful. Before it gets too
serious, try and meet whomever you are chatting with to be sure you are not being deceived.
Much as you might have reached a level of trust before meeting your 'online friend' , you still need to be mindful of where you choose to meet up. No private places for starters.
Application of wisdom is very necessary. You should be mindful so
as not to put yourself out there to be preyed upon by wolfs acting like sheep.
Don’t go all lovey dovey on a ‘familiar stranger’. Stay guided in your spirit. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't right.
That said, don't be too stiff, love lives in strange places ,yours might just be a click away.
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