Infidelity Is Here to Stay?

I recently watched a couple of videos, one of them being a TED talk where the speaker spoke about infidelity and the fact that it is here to stay. According to her, infidelity is a result of longing and dissatisfaction in a relationship, and should not be condemned as it is, nor should it lead to a breakup. In her description, she explained that infidelity is more like a reset button to push your relationship or marriage in the right direction instead of maintaining the status quo. From my understanding of her talk, the infidel is not a perpetrator but a victim of a marriage that has not been able to fulfill his/her desires. She made it very clear from her talk that infidelity is here to stay and we must learn to embrace it just as it is.

Are you reading that and nodding your head? Stop. Now move your head to the left, then to the right, and the to the left again. Get the message? I hope so.

We have now reached a stage in society where we romanticize the idea of infidelity. We have made up ways to explain and justify cheating in marriages, just like some people are trying to use logic to explain God - simply impossible. 

For some couples, infidelity might be a reset button. The cheated partner might want to give the marriage another shot, forgive, and just move on by trying to address the root cause of the infidelity. The truth is many couples do this, they just don't air their dirty laundry for us to see. However, the fact that people can look past infidelity does not mean we should embrace it as a norm. It is by no means normal to cheat on your partner and not expect any repercussions. 

Infidelity is a deep betrayal of trust. It shatters everything that has been built over an extended period. It shatters all the promises made, vows taken, and really makes the marriage more of an illusion on the part of the cheated partner. Infidelity is not OK, not by any stretch of the imagination. Let's not romanticize it, and try to make it a norm, like we made Bruce Jenner transforming to Caitlyn Jenner a norm we should not only embrace, but praise. I believe the absence of empathy in relationships sometimes makes infidelity easy for some people. I always say "put yourself in your spouse's shoes, and check how what you are about to do makes you feel." What you cannot accept, you should not proffer to your spouse. You should not embrace infidelity and expect that your partner will stick around, embracing your excesses. 

Infidelity should not stay; we should kick it out! If you are still keen to play the field, don't get married. Don't take vows in the presence of God only to make a fool of Him and your partner later. Don't walk down the aisle, don't insult your partner's intelligence. Go for who you truly love, not who's convenient. Go for who truly makes you happy and who brings out the best in you. Infidelity is mostly caused by the fact that we settle for the partners we believe will fulfill the ideal marriage picture instead of going for the ones who make our hearts leap for joy. What are your thoughts on infidelity? Do share. XOXO