Ashley Madison:Who Are You When No one Is Watching?

Not many things has shaken the internet quite like the Ashley Madison scandal. There have been so many sensational headlines that have sprung from the hacking of the cheaters website. Some people are glad to see cheaters getting outed while the press has been having the time of their life dropping one jaw breaking headline after another. Since the release of the names of the members occurred, we have gone from mouth opening discoveries to downright upsetting ones. Millions of people have been forced to question all they built their trust upon and many relationships might not make it past this period. It looks like the already high number of divorce might even become higher. Two suicides have already been associated with the leak and one can only wonder how many more casualties would be claimed by this scandal.

In the wake of this, we have come to realize that our dirtiest secrets can be out in the blink of an eye. The question to ponder on is what will your browser history, chats, or whatever it is you do when you think no one is watching, say about you? Who are you when no one is watching?

“I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife.”

This is an excerpt from Josh Duggar’s (one of the stars of the TLC reality TV show '19 kids and counting)  statement after the Ashley Madison database hack revealed that he was an active member with two accounts.I am not trying to judge but one wonders if he would have accepted his wrong deeds or better still sought help if he hadn’t been caught. Sam Rader is another person of interest whose name turned up in the database.

These two names are mentioned because they are practicing Christians who stand for chastity.

While this subject borders a lot on infidelity, other themes can be explored. This is because many people have done great jobs writing about it from the infidelity perspective.You can read one of such piece HERE.

Thing is it also borders on human nature; the hypocritical nature of man. Most of us only put up acts to validate who the society think we are. We are comfortable with sinning privately long as our sins are not known. So we stay webbed in the same sins as the ones we condemn. This hypocritical nature of ours is why the world is the way it is, there is so much selfishness and dishonesty. This only breeds hurt and hate.

We could have a better place if we quit the pretense by acting in private like we do in public. It is high time we considered investing as much time as we do on the package, in the contents of the package. Living right isn’t about proving ourselves to anyone but being true to the man inside. We should look at the man in the mirror and tell him some truths while taking steps to initiate the right amends.

Everyone fights their own battles. No one is perfect but we need to stop making excuses for falling short when we ought to be righting our wrongs. 

Let's stop with the facade of perfection, just live your truth and make needed amends.

May God guide us all.