Marital SEX: What Is Off Limits?

The world has become overly sexualized and the line between what is right and what is perverse has been seriously blurred. The average Christian seeks to hold his sanity in a world where everything can be excused away. There is a new wave of rebranding sin and making sin only about what we morally suppose sin is and not what the bible says. Not to be found wanting , many Christians seek answers to some questions bordering on sex.

Sex is a big part of our lives that is mostly associated with sin and some very pious Christians might argue that God only created sex for procreation. Such people think trying different sex postures on the marital bed different from the traditional style is stretching the limits.

How sex ought to be conducted is not expressly stated in the bible but one can draw conclusions from all the many verses where it’s discussed.

We all are clear on what the bible says about fornication,adultery and bestiality. What seems to be the bone of contention is what is acceptable on the marital bed whether some form of sex is off limit on the marital bed. Can one become overly expressive while having sex with one’s spouse? Are there rules one has to diligently follow?

Anonymous on one of the many forums I follow wants to know if anal sex is acceptable as a Christian.

All these worries are genuine. Before we go into details I need to expressly state that God meant sex for far more than procreation. The book of Songs of Solomon touches explicitly on how to attend to one’s significant other’s sexual needs and desire. Sex is intended to be well enjoyed and pleasurable. It is a big part of marriage and a form of expression. It doesnt get more intimate than sex. Couples ought to be able to agree on what works.

There is really no manual guiding marital sex but the couple ought to be gided by mutual respect and consent as seen in In 1Cor7:3-5

It will be wrong for the wife to impose on the husband what the husband detests and vice versa. Sex shouldn’t be self-seeking alone and if there is any area the couple don’t feel comfortable about, it is best to pray and agree.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 1Cor7:3-5

There is no part of the bible that outrightly rules against oral and anal sex but some doctrines compare anal sex to mean the same as Sodomy(this is debatable). Although you might want to consider the health risks involved in some of those things, especially anal sex. Anal sex involves having sex through the anus. It is known to have many health risks more because of the vulnerability of the anus and rectum. The anal and rectal tissues are delicate and do not provide natural lubrication, so they can easily tear and permit disease transmission.

Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible—but not everything is constructive. Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others. 1 Corinthians 10:23-24

Seek the enjoyment of your spouse knowing well that God intended it to be so. However be guided and be informed. God bless.

Also read Christians,God never intended Sexual Intimacy For Procreation Alone.