Is Your Love Enough For Both of You?

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I have heard it so many times, at some point, it seemed plausible. Can one person's love be enough to salvage a relationship? 

I've watched movies like fireproof which showed that one person had to make the effort to stop fighting, and instead start loving. Of course it could prove to be an uphill climb if the habit of battling each other has become deeply rooted but with love, anyone can be won over. I also watched movies like diary of a mad black woman where a marriage of 18 years had suffered so many casualties, the remains of it where ashes remaining to be blown into thin air. And I have spent a considerable amount of time wondering if acts of love from one partner could steer a relationship to the right destination in spite of all the odds and adversity faced. 

These days, many good-natured men and women find themselves in relationships where they receive nothing in return. They spend a lot of time and energy investing in relationships where they give, give and give some more with no indication whatsoever that their investments will be paid back to them in any way. This stems from the general idea that love is about giving without receiving anything in return, but is also built on the hope that showing acts of love will make a relationship failproof even if the other person does not engage in such acts. If you are of this belief, STOP!

There is no such thing as one-sided love being able to sustain a relationship. It just won't work. Your love is not enough for both of you simply for the clear reason that the other person is not a toy or a robot. The other person has feelings, ideas, opinions etc. You cannot simply take charge by showering a person with love and expecting them to follow suit. It just does not work that way. This is why many good men and women get hurt. They keep investing in people who cannot be bothered to reciprocate their feelings, and get shocked when those people turn their backs and run into the arms of someone else who is seemingly undeserving. 

Stop hurting yourself unnecessarily. Your love alone cannot sustain your relationship. Instead of obsessing over a person who continuously takes from you, realize that the said person does not even belong to you. Seek real love that gives and receives. Give love, but even more importantly, receive love - this is the secret to successful relationships. XOXO