It’s a norm we
are all becoming used to… the fact that after a while the spark dies out in
many marriages, and some people begin to devalue their spouses. It is fast
becoming a norm that after a while, people seek excitement elsewhere because
they just can’t create a spark that will light the fire of excitement in their
own marriages. It is true in many cases that people take their spouses for
granted after a while; appreciation and admiration fly out the window, while
complacency and an uncouth attitude set in. No wonder many marriages feel like
hard work. No wonder many marriages feel like necessary evils. No wonder many
people see marriage as a duty that must be fulfilled, rather than a journey
that must be enjoyed.
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| awakeningcharlotte.com |
If you want the
spark in your marriage to last, you must be willing to consciously keep the
spark alive by not taking your spouse for granted under any circumstances.
Spontaneously serve breakfast in bed; explore new movies and shows together;
try new things together; always appreciate the little things your spouse does
even if it is his or her duty. In so many homes, appreciation is only reserved
for gifts exchanged during special occasions. Couples do not appreciate each
other for being a strong pillar to rely on; couples hardly praise each other’s
strengths; couples hardly offer words of affirmation or acts of service. As far
as they are concerned, marriage is an organization where each person must fulfill
his/her duty and not complain about it, no matter how burdensome it may be.
Marriage has
become hard work, because the real essence of marriage has been lost in
societal definitions of achievement. Marriage is a journey two people embark on
TOGETHER where they overcome obstacles together, win quests together, cry
together, laugh together and plan together. Marriage is a partnership, not some
kind of military organization where a personal relationship is lost. The
partnership cannot survive if both partners take each other for granted. If you’ve
taken your partner for granted, it’s not too late to turn around today and
start showing him/her that you genuinely care.
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