I'll Kill For My Wife: 4 important Marriage Tips From Pastor Adeboye

Experience, they say is the best teacher. When people with experience speak, the wise thing to do is to bring out our notepads and jot away.

Pastor E.A Adeboye is known for his influential ministerial and pastoral works but even deeper than that is his marriage to his wife- which is fifty years old.

In a time of short temperaments and frequent divorces, there is so much to learn from couples that have kept it together.

While preaching in Lagos at the RCCG headquarters in a message titled Activating Your Destiny, Pastor Adeboye shared the following tips on sustaining marriages.

Marry for love.

He urged those seeking life partners to marry for love because such love endures for long. He said despite the fact that he has been married to his wife for 50 years now, that he is still on his honeymoon.

It’ll endure. I’ve been married for 50 years and still on honeymoon. I was the poorest among those lurking around the girl I married.” “One was a lawyer who had a car; I had nothing. But I told the girl that if you marry me, whatever I am, wherever I ever become, will be yours”. “I was not a Christian, but I was an incurable optimist. We struggled over ‘pomo’ as I usually hear me say, but today if we want to eat a cow now, God will provide. “After our wedding on September 8, 1967, we faced challenges. The baby came 1968. It was tough. We were happy because we were in love. “I had no car, no house, a marriage into a rented room and a parlour. We have stories to tell. If you marry for love, the reason it will last is that God is love.”

Keep the fire burning.

He stressed on the need for lovers to keep the show of affection alive in their marriages for it to be sustained

“You must continue to tend the fire, meaning: no matter how little, you must constantly give gifts to your partner. If it’s given in love, it’ll be appreciated.“When two people are in love, they exchange gifts. Always open your mouth to say to your partner “I love you.”

Be ready to lay down your life for your spouse if you truly love them.

My wife doesn’t like me saying this: “You can slap me; you can lie against me, you can criticise me, it doesn’t bother me, but touch my wife, I’ll kill you! “I want the world to hear. They’ll say if I killed, they’ll arrest me, jail me, that is if I killed with cutlass or gun. “If you tamper with my wife, I will talk to my Daddy and you’ll sleep and will not wake.”


The bonus tip will be for ladies who want to marry an influential person to marry a pastor.

“If you want to marry a person who’s influential, marry a pastor. If he does not fall into sin, he’ll remain a pastor forever.”